At a time when it is recognised that the teenage years can be some of the most difficult days of your life it is important to promote the importance of being self aware and taking responsibility to self care. The earlier you let someone know how you feel the sooner you can get help.
Access to counselling is becoming easier and therefore the stigma of going to therapy is becoming less and less although at a time when you may feel misunderstood, depressed or perhaps bullied it can be a difficult thing to do however taking that first step can be the one thing that can help you move forward from whatever is affecting you.
There are ways to get help even if you don`t know whats worrying you because talking things through with a trained professional will help you to explore the way you feel in order to identify whats going on for you.
Its important to find out how you feel in order to challenge any negative thoughts you may have especially if these are dark thoughts which involve thoughts of self harm, risk taking behaviour or suicide. Talking about dark thoughts through counselling provides a safe place where you can be honest about how you feel without fear of being judged and together safety measures can be put in place to help you during those negative moments.
Every teenager has worries from time to time whether about home, family, school or work and of course `stuff happens` none of us sail through life without experiencing some sort of issue.
During Exam time there’s a lot of pressure to get good results, and the stresses and strains of school life at this time can sometimes feel too much. It is important to recognise there’s a problem to be solved and ask for help as soon as you can.
Some school problems might include:
- Finding schoolwork difficult
- Problems concentrating in class if others are noisy and disruptive
- Tricky relationships with friends difficult dynamics wiithin friendship groups
- Not getting on with teachers
- Bullying (being called names, feeling isolated, picked on, physically or emotionally hurt)
- Problems at home – parents’ or step parent relationships, sibling issues, a housing, financial uncertainty, feeling unsupported
- Learning difficulties or diagnosis of specific difficulties such as dyslexia, ADHD, mental health disorders or other health related issues
- Worrying about the future
How do you feel?
Any of these things can make you feel very unhappy causing you to feel ill, have headaches, panic attacks or just feel tired all of the time, causing you to feel less motivated to do homework and as a result your marks may drop causing you to feel even more stressed.
At these times many people feel angry or upset and may not like themselves for the way that they feel, this may cause lack of confidence, low mood, low self esteem and can have an impact on your whole well being. Often this can affect relationships with friends, teachers and even at home.
Some people may become reluctant to go into school, or even refuse to go at all. In extreme cases, this can lead to truancy without their parents knowing or exhibit behavioural problems such as lying, stealing or being aggressive.
What can you do?
If you’re worried about any aspect of school, it’s important to talk to someone you trust whether this is a parent, carer, friend about what is causing you to feel the way you do. They can make contact with the school to address the problems helping to resolve them.
Schools have procedures in place for helping students with problems, and the first port of call will probably be your teacher or tutor. Schools will also have an anti-bullying policy.
Whatever you do, recognise how your feel, talk to someone and get help sooner rather than later
YOU ARE IMPORTANT, YOU MATTER, IT MATTERS
TELL SOMEONE HOW YOU FEEL